Leaving a toxic situation is a lot easier said than done. There are many difficulties involved in doing it.
A toxic situation can be anything. A relationship, a work environment, a family situation, or a situation with friends. Each of the situations has its own complications, and it is all dependent on how much you truly value your own mental and emotional health that makes the difference between leaving and staying.
In a relationship, it is very difficult to cut ties, especially if you truly love that person. In that case it will take a lot to make you see the truth, that the relationship is bad for you. But even if you do see the truth, the actual act of leaving is extremely hard to do. Because you love this person so much, you have a tendency to either excuse their behavior, or to say that there is more to them than just that particular thing. That they are capable of so much more. And yes, they may be capable of more. But if they constantly treat you in a negative way, abuse you, push you in directions you don't want to go in, and destroy your peace of mind, then they won't show you more than they already do. Because they don't see why they should. You keep going back, no matter how they treat you, so they have no need to change.
Cutting ties in this situation is extremely hard to do. In a situation like this, it truly all depends on how much you value yourself. Because the thing is, unless you say enough is enough, and stick to your guns, nothing will ever change. They will keep treating you the way they do because it is easy and comfortable. They see no need to change their actions, simply because you always end up being the one who apologizes for feeling the way you do and begging them to come back, even though you are not the one at fault. They have control over you, and they will keep it that way until you finally walk away completely. Until that point in time, they will always have a hold over you. Breaking their hold is up to you and you alone.
When in a work situation, it is just as difficult for an entirely different reason. At work you are completely dependent on your boss in order to make money so you can survive. This generally means gritting your teeth, putting on a fake smile, and sucking it up. But this can only work for so long before you start to experience personal problems because of it.
These problems can be anything from a rise in aggression, to a complete breakdown because of stress. And this also takes a physical toll on your body. You are tired the whole time, have no energy, can barely drag yourself out of bed, and start to suffer from intense depression. The only solution to this is to get out of this situation. If your boss finds out, they will probably fire you instantly, but it is very important to get away. Now you can either search for a job without telling your boss until you quit, or you can use your contacts to help get a job, and then quit. However you do it is up to you, but leaving is the only way you can start to breathe again.
Now when you are in a toxic family situation, it can be hell. You feel there is no way out, and you feel as if no one hears you or cares about you, simply because they don't. They ignore you, they abuse you in various ways, treat you like they couldn't care less about, and constantly mistreats and insults you just because they can. There are very very few ways how you can find some form of peace in a situation like this. Because being in this situation can cause many mental and physical health problems.
A good way to find some peace in that situation is having friends you can trust and rely on. If you have a confidant, then talking and unloading will make you feel a lot better. If you can trust them, they can help give you support and freedom for a bit. Get you away from the situation, so that you can refresh your mind and take a bit of a breather. And if that is not possible, support groups help a lot. And the cure all for this is to get your own place. And then focus on your own health in all matters, and, if needed, walk away from the family.
If you are in a toxic friendship, it is somewhat easier to walk away, but it comes with it has own set of problems. Especially if it is someone you have been friends with for a very long time. It is a different kind of pain that losing a relationship will be. It is extremely painful on a level that a lot of people won't understand. To have a toxic friendship means that the friend constantly puts you down, spreads stories about you, and deliberately does things to hurt you and break you down.
To end a friendship like that is very hard to do. But, once again, it all depends on how much you value yourself. Once away from a toxic friendship, you will feel able to breathe again. It will hurt, but it will be a lot better in the long run. You will need to think of your own mental and emotional health. You need to think of what you need in order to feel better. Your mental stability and emotional health is far more important than anything else.
You need to think of yourself in all situations like these. At all times your mental, emotional, and physical health is more important than anything else. You need to do what is best for you. If leaving is what will give you that relief and freedom, then leave. If it will give you stability, and the ability to breathe, then do it. Don't stick to certain situations if you don't have to. Just walk away. It will be very hard to do, but at the end of the day, it will be the best thing for you to do.
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