Relationships are very tricky things. And fulfilling the expectations in a relationship even more so.
Most people say that a relationship is 50/50. I greatly disagree. A relationship is 100/100. Both partners give all of themselves to one another. I mean, come on. What are you gonna do with the other 50%? Make random hookups at a bar?
A relationship requires work. It requires effort, understanding, respect, communication, trust, and compromise. Without these things, it cannot work. Lacking even one, will make it hard to keep the relationship going. And all these things should come from both partners.
Effort
A relationship is not going to work if you do not put in the effort. Remember their favorite color, and buy them a gift in that color. Remember their favorite food, and try to make it for them. When they are not feeling well, tell them to get in bed, and take care of them. When they are sad, comfort them. When they are happy, celebrate with them. When you are busy and away from one another, send a text. Make one another feel wanted. Join in with the things you know your partner would like. You don't have to like it, but make the effort. And this goes for both partners. It is not a one way street.
2. Understanding
When your partner comes home from work, and something upset them, showing understanding always helps. It helps calm them down, and it helps to ease that negative feeling. But that is not the only area where it is applicable. When your partner is scared, don't laugh. No matter how silly it is to you. Comfort. When your partner gets upset by something you did, talk about it so that you can understand why that happened. In many cases it is very difficult to get into the mindset of your partner. But it is not impossible. And once that understanding is there, you will be able to work even better together in the relationship.
3. Respect
Now respect is a very tricky thing in a relationship. Many people are of the opinion that it is the responsibility of the man to respect the woman. But this is not the case. Yes, definitely respect, but ladies, you need to respect your man as well. Again, a two way street. And should there be children, yes, they should respect the parents. But the parents should also respect them. Many problems stem from childhood and the treatment of the child during that time. They may be small, but they still need to be shown respect. Setting an example at a young age, is better than lacking that example entirely.
4. Communication
Communicating with your partner is of vital importance. Being completely honest and open in your relationship helps to make it work. Think about it. Your partner said something to upset you. How are they to know why you are upset if you don't tell them why? How are they supposed to work on it if they do not know why you are upset? Communication is a very big deal. Communication helps you understand one another better. Communication helps you know what triggers your partner has. It helps you understand one another better. Talk about your fears, and the cause of them. Talk about things that happened to you which had a negative impact. Things which had a good impact. All this helps to build the understanding that partners need to have between one another. Without understanding, there is not really a good basis to work from.
5. Trust
Without trust, there is no relationship. Trust is the bedrock of every relationship. If your partner wants to go out with their friends, let them. You must be able to trust them enough to know that they will not do anything to damage the relationship. If they are at a friends' house and their ex shows up and starts to flirt, you shouldn't care about the ex. You should be able to trust your partner enough so that you know that no matter what their ex does, they will not react. You need to be able to trust them despite what happens. If there is not full trust, there is no relationship. If there is doubt, there is no relationship. Trust is important on every level.
6. Compromise
Now we come to the really tricky part. Compromise. Something that very often does not happen. I have had more relationship in the past where I was the only one making any effort and compromising on everything in order to make it work. This is not conducive to a stable relationship. There is always something that your partner wants to do that you don't. Compromising and doing it with your partner to see how happy it makes them, despite your dislike of it, is always worth it. Compromise comes from both sides. All the other points come into play with this. You have to communicate so there can be understanding on both sides. You have to respect one another and make the effort by compromising. All this helps to build trust.
This is a very tricky combination. But these points are some of the most important things there are to make your relationship work. Working on these basic points will make for a much stronger relationship between the both of you. If you can show one another the basic decency by providing this, your relationship stands a much better chance at working.
No two relationships are the same. Some are more difficult than others. But working on these points can only help. And remember! It comes from BOTH partners. Never just one. And put all of yourself in. Don't hold back. If you hold back, that shows you that this relationship is not for you. It won't truly work, unless you can give all of yourself to one another. And you need to be able to trust one another enough to know that you will not do anything to damage the relationship. If it does not work, let it be because the relationship ran its natural course. Not because you did not make an actual effort.
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