Each person has a different way of showing love to their partners. Be it in an overly clingy way, or be it in a subtle way.
I am a mixture of both. I have times when I get overly clingy and just want to be held, kissed, and loved. And because I have times like that, in turn, I give that as well. I will cuddle my partner, kiss him all over the face, and just squeeze him because I just want him as close as possible. But these times, while it happens regularly, it does not happen a lot.
When it comes to showing my partner how much I love him, I am usually very subtle. I take interest in their life. Now, in most cases, what I am about to mention is very standard in a relationship. But it is not mandatory. Very often this happens, not because it is what you are expected to do, but because it is a way of showing your partner that you love them.
I am interested in what happens during his day. No matter how big or small, good or bad, I want to know. And I will ask about his day. Discuss everything he wants to. Most people see this as a standard thing, but it is not. There are many people in relationships where their partners don't care, and never make the effort to find out.
I always tell him to be safe. Whenever he tells me he is going somewhere, my immediate response to him is to drive safe. The absolute last thing I want is for something to happen to him, so I will always tell him that. I am always concerned about his health and safety and want to know that he is ok. Again, while this seems normal, not everyone does this.
I chase him to bed at a certain time because he needs to get up early for work. He has a tendency to get a little pouty and complainy at that point in time, because he does not want to end the phone call. I can't help but laugh at that point, because he makes the face a little boy would make. And then I just have to tease him by saying that it must be awful to have a partner that actually cares about his well being and chases him to bed like a naughty boy.
When we sleep he has a habit of moving all the blankets over to me, and then when I turn around and touch him, his skin is ice cold. At this point I just take the blanket and cover him up properly and go back to sleep. This I do every night, at least about 4 times. The first time I told him about it, he was very surprised, as he was completely unaware of the fact that he did it. So now the first thing I do when I wake up is to check and see if he is covered, and to cover him up if he is not.
When he is feeling anxious, I pull him close and hold him without saying a word until he feels better. If he is sad I will hold him and stroke his hair and just listen while he talks. I will always ask him how tired he is and if he wants to do something. I always make sure that he has eaten enough. I always try to take his feelings into account as much as I possibly can, and try to consider him in every aspect. And he does the exact same thing for me.
These are just a few of the ways that I try to show my love to him. Small ways, but very important at the end of the day. As I said previously, most of these things come standard in a relationship, but there are a surprising amount of people who don't do it at all. People who take actions such as these for granted, and never bother to return it, or to see why it is actually there.
Love is a very complicated thing. And many people have many different ways of showing it. Some people (not me) are extremely romantic, and love doing romantic things for their partners in order to show it. Some people (me) get extremely embarrassed by things like that, so show it in an entirely different manner. But it is still showing love. Just different ways.
It doesn't matter how you show it. Make your partner feel loved. Make them feel important. Make them feel as if what they are thinking, experiencing, or feeling at that moment is important. Because it is. Make sure that you show your partner in any way that you can just what they mean to you. Put effort into doing that. The response you get towards those actions, towards making your partner feel as if they are the most important thing in your world, that response is the most amazing feeling you can get. Because when you show that to your partner, show, not say, you should get the exact same thing in return. That's when you know you are on the right track. That's when you know you can make it.
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